The Great Mom Divide — 5 Ways We Can Close the Gap

If God had a top 10 list of things that grieve His heart, I wonder if The Great Mom Divide would make the cut?

What’s The Great Mom Divide, you ask? It’s the great chasm created between moms when:

The Great Mom Divide seeks to separate, alienate, and isolate. I’m sure that you don’t want to play any part in furthering that cause any more than I do.

Even though believing moms are united under the banner of Christ, the truth is that we aren’t united on many other fronts. And it’s strange, because unified is one of the very things believers are asked to be.

I appeal to you, dear brothers and sisters, by the authority of our Lord Jesus Christ, to live in harmony with each other. Let there be no divisions in the church. Rather, be of one mind, united in thought and purpose.  {1 Corinthians 1:10}

In this, Paul’s closing benediction to the Corinthian church, he isn’t saying here that we all must have the same thoughts, the same opinions, or that we should all virtually be the same person. He’s saying that we should “be of one mind,” which means to have the mind of Christ. To think how Christ thinks. This changes everything.

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Would you be willing to be a mom who’ll commit to closing The Great Mom Divide?

Here are 5 ways we can do that:

In order to start reversing any habit, one must be disciplined. Right out of the gate, let’s admit that being disciplined is hard work. And in this case, we need to be disciplined not to judge other moms. It’s such a hard thing. We have our standards, and whenever someone falls short of them, we judge. The thing we have to remember is that the sea of moms out there are not held to our standards, but God’s. We must be disciplined to live our own life well, while encouraging others to do the same.

TGMD #2

When we disagree or don’t understand another mom’s life, we tend to say things that are insensitive. Instead of, “I don’t know how you do it.” why don’t we try, “How can I help you do it?” We all are gifted with different callings and strengths, but it’s not always daisies and roses to carry them out. Let’s not remind each other how hard our callings are, instead let’s help each other by speaking words that lift and offer gentle reminders that heal.

TGMD #3

We’re guilty. We’ve all stereotyped someone by placing them into a generalized category without knowing all the background information and we’ve all been stereotyped. It feels pretty cruddy no matter which end of the spectrum you happen to be at the moment. Either way you play it, stereotypes hurt relationships. Get to know other moms as individuals. We are each unique creations, never fully fitting into one category or another. We’ll be discussing this topic further in Episode 19 of the podcast which you can listen to right here on the blog in just two more days.

TGMD #4

Community is a word that has been thrown around modern Christendom for a few years now. We all need it, and are at our best in the midst of a healthy one. How about we picture community as a welcoming campfire with enough logs for all to sit on? Because groups of moms were never meant to dwell within fortified cities we erect with our own hands. We were meant for each other. So go on, build that campfire, and invite other moms to join you.

TGMD #5

Of course. We can’t forget Jesus. So many times we divide ourselves without giving a thought to Christ and the love He’s asking us to give. Societal dividing lines never once stopped Jesus. He walked right over them. And we should too. Let’s ask God to give us eyes of compassion. Eyes that stop seeing the differing lives of other moms as wrong (and therefore offensive), but instead as one more way the Father was infinitely creative when crafting us.


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Amanda Bacon

Amanda is the mother of eight kids through birth and adoption and has been married for eighteen years to the most helpful man on the planet. She is an encouraging voice for moms everywhere through the written and spoken word. In addition to The Masterpiece Mom blog and podcast, she also writes at AmandaBacon.com and is over the top in love with Instagram (@amanda_baconbits). Come over and say hi!
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About Amanda Bacon

Amanda is the mother of eight kids through birth and adoption and has been married for eighteen years to the most helpful man on the planet. She is an encouraging voice for moms everywhere through the written and spoken word. In addition to The Masterpiece Mom blog and podcast, she also writes at AmandaBacon.com and is over the top in love with Instagram (@amanda_baconbits). Come over and say hi!

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