If you were to ask me on any given day what I’m doing wrong as a mom, I’d have a long list at the ready just as fast as I can down that cup of tea I let grow cold in the afternoon.
I think we’re all together on this when I acknowledge we’re incredibly hard on ourselves.
We grow impatient and raise our voice, therefore assuming we’re absolute failures.
We forget events that have been on the calendar for weeks, therefore dubbing ourselves losers who can’t keep it together.
We serve cereal for dinner two nights in a row while apologizing profusely for being so lame.
“It’s true. I am a lame failure who can’t keep it together. Something is majorly wrong here and it’s me.”
On the other hand, if you were to ask me about all the things I’m doing right as a mom, it would slow my breathing and cause me to think long and hard. The good things aren’t settled at the surface of my thinking like the other stuff.
But they should be.
We do so many things right.
I’m not leading us into a prideful way of thinking, but rather a true way of thinking. Being hard on ourselves isn’t humility, it’s just wrong.
Off the top of my head, I can list many things I’m proud of as a mom:
Hugs and smiles.
Teaching about and displaying a life that honors God.
Giving consequences for poor choices because I love my kids and want to prepare them for their future.
Being present in their everyday lives.
Teaching dance moves and songs from the 80’s and 90’s for fun and laughs.
Sacrificing time for myself to serve them.
Providing a stable place to grow and learn.
I’m sure you could come up with your own list if you sat and thought about it for a minute. In fact, why don’t you pause to do so right now? Get into your Notes on your phone or grab a pen and paper and list what you’re proud to provide for your kids.
See? Doesn’t that help put it into perspective?
There are issues we need to work through, sin problems that get in the way, but hear me when I say this:
You do so many things right.
Even when we mess up, God’s grace is there to catch us. If He isn’t hard on us, we shouldn’t be hard on us.
So today let’s walk in the light of that catching grace and remember all the things we’re doing well.
You do so many things right. It’s true.