Our Children’s Well-Being Doesn’t Ultimately Hinge on Us

All of the sudden, a couple hours after they’d left the house, my five elementary-aged kids popped into my head.

They’d just started at a new school in a new community after we spent a year renting in another area and attending another school. We felt at home there and now we were having to uproot and leave what was familiar once again. Moving from Alaska was one thing, but now a year later having to move across town to another new school was another thing.

I was a bit anxious for them. Some were meeting not only new teachers and classmates, as all kids in school do at the start of a new year, but some of our kiddos were in a whole new environment which can be tricky with special needs and were meeting with a new special education staff too. All without me. 

I was so used to having them with me 24/7 all those years of homeschooling in Alaska, that when I remembered they weren’t with me, it was shocking.

“Oh my word, they’re at school. I forgot about them. How could I forget about them? I need to pray.”

And then as quickly as the jolt of remembering they were not with me came, another thought popped into my head: Their well-being doesn’t fully depend on me.

I’m like a gardener. I till the soil, plant the seeds, water, and try to produce the best environment I can, but God does the growing. In this case, He’s the Master care-taker, not me. He is watching, He is tending, He is helping. He loves them more than I ever could.

I used to be stuck in a cycle of constant fear. My fear was mostly centered around the possibility of making the wrong choices and having a million blaming fingers pointing back at me. It would be my fault. I should have protected them better. I should have prayed more. I must have heard God wrong. I should have… should have… should have…

But as I’ve grown as a mom to the kids He’s entrusted to my care, I’ve learned to trust the One who has entrusted. He’s given me wisdom to walk toward what He’s leading us into. I’m steeped in His Word and I’m in close prayer relationship with Him. Therefore, I’m attuned to what He’s said and is saying. I can believe His direction for our family and I believe He’ll see us through.

It’s a trust-fall each time we entrust our kids to others to teach and care for them. Will He catch us? Will He catch them? If He’s led us there, yes He will.

Yes He will.

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Amanda is the mother of eight kids through birth and adoption and has been married for eighteen years to the most helpful man on the planet. She is an encouraging voice for moms everywhere through the written and spoken word. In addition to The Masterpiece Mom blog and podcast, she also writes at AmandaBacon.com and is over the top in love with Instagram (@amanda_baconbits). Come over and say hi!
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Amanda is the mother of eight kids through birth and adoption and has been married for eighteen years to the most helpful man on the planet. She is an encouraging voice for moms everywhere through the written and spoken word. In addition to The Masterpiece Mom blog and podcast, she also writes at AmandaBacon.com and is over the top in love with Instagram (@amanda_baconbits). Come over and say hi!

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  1. I completely agree. I have been in this same place Many a Day and always need that reminder.

    “God’s got this!” He loves us and our children as much as we do. He is sovereign and all powerful. Nothing can get to His children without first going through Him. So if He, in His infinite wisdom, allows it, We can handle it. He knew we could and He let it happen. It might not always be pleasant and easy but He has this and He will see us through it. He’s got this. First we pray, then we listen to Godly friends for advice and when we make an informed decision, we step out in faith, continuing to pray for the protection He provides.

    Thank you for the reminder!!!

    Praying God will guide and direct the teachers and persons at our school and that those that love the Lord will reflect His glory and that their lights will shine in such a way that the children grow closer to Christ. May God provide protection to His children and may they honor Him in their words and actions. May others see His light shining through us and may they come to know Him as their Saviour as a result of our words and actions. May we, God’s children, shine and be a light.

  2. Question, do you not feel a million fingers would be pointing at you now that they are public schooled? Maybe not, but I know God put me here to watch these kiddos as long as I can, and I am more concerned about HIS finger pointing at me then a million. The time we have with our kiddos is shorter then any other season of our lives. Saying God’s got this, and sending them away is like saying God will provide and sitting back waiting for it to happen. We have to be proactive. Just a thought.

    • Hi Mindy! When writing, there’s always a chance of being misunderstood. Let me explain a bit more. 🙂 The million pointing fingers I spoke of are my own. Questioning God, questioning me, afraid to make a wrong move, and being really hard on myself. God led us here to put our five youngest kids in school and it’s been a wonderful change, but not without all the million questions, doubts, and fears.

      Walking by faith and being willing to change our ways based on what God is speaking to us has not been easy! Especially when we’ve been misunderstood. What I meant in the post, is if God is leading you somewhere (to adopt, foreign missions, a new job, a new way of schooling, etc… or anything out of a comfort zone), He’ll catch you and keep leading and guiding. I wasn’t saying, “Do your own thing and trust He’ll catch you.” That’s why I mentioned having a close relationship with Him. Listening and going in whatever direction He sends. If you aren’t convicted in that way, it’s hard to understand. I’ve felt the same way you might be feeling about some of our kids being in school when we were convicted to homeschool all of our kids for that decade and when we’ve adopted. “Everyone should be doing it this way! I feel so strongly!” But I’ve learned to understand God leads in mysterious ways I can’t begin to understand. This post was for those who have felt led to have others care for their kids for a season and the trust walk that is. I appreciate your comments and input!

      (And to answer your question: No, I don’t feel a million fingers pointing at me, nor is that a concern. I believe God in this route He chose for us. I try to look to God for approval and stay connected to His voice.)

  3. Thanks Amanda
    My friend and I have been praying for out kids-2 in college 2 still HS and sometimes really hard to watch the choices they make and trying to trust God to write their testimonies.

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