Loving Your Child’s Personality Even When It’s Hard

I wish I was the kind of parent who could look at my kids and only see promise.

But probably like you, it’s hard to do that at all times. Especially when your child’s defiance and sinful bents are staring you in the face day after day.

Do you ever wonder how your child could ever be anything other than who they are right in this moment? Will they every grow past this and become a decent human being? I know I’ve thought that many times. Change feels impossible.

But our view is so limited.

How often do we forget our children are wired with certain bents and personalities because they have the potential to serve God and the world around them in the future with those very traits?

How often do we forget how far we, ourselves, have come? The seven year-old me is certainly different than the current me. And all the people said Amen.

Our children’s ways might drive us nuts now, but how might God use them in the future?

How might He be growing them and using us to shape them in this season?

I know it’s an age-old topic, but I need lots of reminders. I don’t always see my kids’ traits as intentional. Admittedly, sometimes I just find their struggles bothersome and annoying.

You too?

This post doesn’t need to be long, we just need encouragement in this, don’t we? Here are some verses from Scripture that are helping me keep my mind in the right place regarding my kids’ personalties:

He isn’t even close to being done with them. (Or us.)

And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ. // Philippians 1:6

 

If we are in Christ, we have the Holy Spirit dwelling within us. How is this evidenced in our lives as the parent? How is this evidenced in our kids’ lives?

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,  gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. // Galatians 5:22-23

 

Some of our kids are not yet believers in Christ. Just wait. There’s a new creation coming. Why would we expect them to act Christ-like if they don’t know Him yet?

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. // 2 Corinthians 5:17

 

Be compassionate. Kind. Humble. Meek. Patient. Forgiving. Loving. Peaceful. Thankful. It’s what He’s asking of us.

Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.  And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.  And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. // Colossians 3:12-15

 

We are deeply loved by God and so are our children. May we love them with the same deep and abiding love.

For we know, brothers loved by God, that he has chosen you, because our gospel came to you not only in word, but also in power and in the Holy Spirit and with full conviction. // 1 Thessalonians 1:4-5

 

I’m praying for us, friends, and I’m praying for our children.

May we learn to see each other as God’s dearly beloved children and see potential and promise as God sees it. Give us eyes to see, Lord!

Is there anything that is helping you get your mind back on track to see your children as God sees them? Share with us in the comments or over on Facebook.

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Amanda is the mother of eight kids through birth and adoption and has been married for eighteen years to the most helpful man on the planet. She is an encouraging voice for moms everywhere through the written and spoken word. In addition to The Masterpiece Mom blog and podcast, she also writes at AmandaBacon.com and is over the top in love with Instagram (@amanda_baconbits). Come over and say hi!
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Amanda is the mother of eight kids through birth and adoption and has been married for eighteen years to the most helpful man on the planet. She is an encouraging voice for moms everywhere through the written and spoken word. In addition to The Masterpiece Mom blog and podcast, she also writes at AmandaBacon.com and is over the top in love with Instagram (@amanda_baconbits). Come over and say hi!

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