Looking for the Sweet Spots of Motherhood

Have you ever stood back and analyzed your mothering style?

I tend to do this every few months. Usually when I’m procrastinating, putting off something I really don’t want to do. Like cleaning out the fridge. Or organizing closets.

I like to divide motherhood into categories such as:

  • Not My Favorite
  • Something I’m Okay At
  • Things I Should Never Ever Do


  • Oh My Word This Is Totally My Mothering Sweet Spot

The last category reflects my gifts and talents. My instinctive mothering rhythms. Those glorious areas in life where I wanna shout to the world, This is my jam! My zone of amesomeness! (Saying that with all of the humility in the world, of course.)

Maybe you’re like me you’ve wondered why some people seem to parent more naturally. – You look around and see these amazing wonder women. You know the ones I’m talking about. The moms with kindness, soft words, and nurturing goodness oozing out of their every pore.

Maybe you catch yourself looking enviously at those energetic moms swinging next to their children. The wind blowing through their hair, their giggles contagious as they swing higher and higher. While meanwhile, back at Camp Mom Going Through the Motions, you find yourself glancing down at your phone like a madwoman, praying for naptime to hurry up and appear, waiting anxiously for the sleepy time fairy to grant you an hour of peace.

But I guarantee you… Like me, you have a sweet spot or two. Maybe three. You do! Perhaps you just need a little help unearthing it.

Would you mind if I ask you a few questions? And these are in no apparent order.

How do you connect best with your kids? And how do they relate best with you?

Is it playing board games or throwing a Frisbee in the backyard?

Maybe you love to cook with your kids – breakfast foods, cookies, or something more fancy schmancy, like boeuf bourguignon (a la Julia Child).

What about hiking, biking, running, or cross-country skiing?

Does teaching God’s Word to your kids make your heart want to explode with happiness?

Are you a great conversationalist? Do you like to take your kids to coffee houses and connect over warm cups of chai tea and hot chocolate?

How about music? Does the term Family Dance Party get you excited?

Maybe your love language is Legos, Playmobile, Lincoln Logs, or paper dolls.

Possibly art. Drawing, painting, coloring.

Or maybe your soul comes alive while working on a project together with your kids, or serving together.

When we are operating out of our strengths rather than viewing motherhood as just one more To Do, our children can definitely tell the difference. For real. Kids have this uncanny sense when we view them as unpleasant work rather than a blessing and a joy.

Granted, there will be times when we want to pull our hair out, when the stretching and the pruning of parenthood pushes us to the outer edges of our sanity. And I’m definitely not saying that if we are able to discover our sweet spots that parenting won’t be hard. Because the shaping of little lives will never be easy.

Honestly, we may feel like we’re failing. We may fall flat on our faces. And more than once. But part of finding our sweet spot as a mom means erring boldly and trying new things.

So go find that sweet spot. Because it can be a real game (and perspective) changer.

Let’s mother out of a place of calling and passion rather than tiredness and discouragement.

Let’s show these little and big people that they are precious to us. That we want to raise them well, pointing them toward the Savior, and giving out of the gifts that God has given.

Because mothering matters.

And because life’s too short not to utilize all those sweet spots.


Care to share some of your mothering sweet spots with us? We would love to hear! Just click on the Comment button at the top of the post.


Anne-Renee Gumley

Anne-Renee is a full-time mom who works part-time at her family's party store. She has two children who keep her laughing, a husband who keeps her smiling, and an itch for writing that just won't go away.

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