How Our Imperfection Is Helping Our Daughters (and Sons)

You're Not the Best Mom

 

“You’re not the best mom, but you’re a pretty good one.” 

Her twinkly brown eyes danced as she said it, and her missing front teeth made her all the more endearing as we sat on the couch together that regular Tuesday afternoon. I grabbed her and tickled her until that infectious giggle of hers came out.

I knew what she meant. She thinks I’m a great mom, but she knows I’m not perfect.

And that’s exactly what I’d like her to know about me.

I want her to see that her mama loves her to the moon and back, but she’s not flawless. I want her to know when she’s a mom and messes up, feels emotional, collapses in exhaustion, or is just plain sad — that she’s normal. 

She’s seen her mom in all of those states, and I’m not ashamed of it.

When we show our humanness, our children benefit. Especially our girl children. The ones who may one day become mothers themselves.

They need to see our frailty. They need to see our dependence on Christ. They need to see that we hurt, reach our limit, and struggle with everyday life. Because we all do. Every last one of us.

And we can’t forget our sons. If all they see is a false perfect mama, if and when they become a father, they may believe wrongly that the mother of their own children is abnormal if she cannot “handle” life and mothering like their own mother appeared to.

Ouch. We don’t want that, now do we?

Authentic. Loving. Christ-seeking. Intentional. That’s the kind of mother our kids need. Perfection doesn’t make the list.

So I’m not the best mom, but I am a pretty good one. And so are you.

Amanda Bacon
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Amanda Bacon

Amanda is the mother of eight kids through birth and adoption and has been married for eighteen years to the most helpful man on the planet. She is an encouraging voice for moms everywhere through the written and spoken word. In addition to The Masterpiece Mom blog and podcast, she also writes at AmandaBacon.com and is over the top in love with Instagram (@amanda_baconbits). Come over and say hi!
Amanda Bacon
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About Amanda Bacon

Amanda is the mother of eight kids through birth and adoption and has been married for eighteen years to the most helpful man on the planet. She is an encouraging voice for moms everywhere through the written and spoken word. In addition to The Masterpiece Mom blog and podcast, she also writes at AmandaBacon.com and is over the top in love with Instagram (@amanda_baconbits). Come over and say hi!

Comments

  1. I loved being a Mom, but being “Ama” special name our 4 grandkids call me is the ULTIMATE! Needed those exact words written as I put on a shelf the past horrendous year..let me simply say thank you & may God Bless you for this article, Amen?

  2. Good morning Amanda!

    This was a wonderful post as always! As a daughter, and a grown daughter at that, I can echo those sentiments of your sweet young daughter. My Mom may not be the best or perfect Mom, but she is a pretty good one! No, my Mom isn’t perfect, but she does the best she can. I may not do everything exactly how she did it if I ever become a Mom myself someday, but the example my Mom has set for me is a really great one that I can only hope to follow half way decently. Thanks for sharing!
    God Bless!
    Bethany

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