For Those Times When You Feel Invisible

For Those Times When You Feel InvisibleEver feel like an invisible mama?

You make dinner. And nobody breathes a word of thanks. You do the laundry. And it’s like it just magically showed up on the laundry counter all clean and folded. You drive to and from, and here and there, and then back again. But not one single person hosts a verbal parade in your honor.

What’s wrong with this family, you begin to think.

Why is no one saying, “Thank you” these days?

Have I raised a whole generation of ingrates?!

And then you open your bible and Jesus says the most absurd thing: “If anyone would be first, he must be last of all and servant of all.” (Mark 9:35)

Servant of all? Are you kidding me? Why in the world would I train my children to think of me as Cinderella? Their future spouses will want to murder me. Not to mention that I’m not doing them any favors in being their mom slave.

Then you read on: “Whoever receives one such child in My name receives Me, and whoever receives Me, receives not Me but him who sent Me.” (Mark 9:37)

Say what? So not only am I supposed to be last of all and servant of all, but now I’m in the receiving business? What does that even mean?

So you grab your ESV Study Bible and begin to pour over this particular section of Scripture. The word Receiving is described as “Humbly caring for people…out of obedience to Christ.”

Ouch! Humble. Caring. Obedient. For Christ. That’s a tall order.

But not too tall for God.

And then it hits you. The common thread: In My name … and receives Me.

Whatever you do

When we work like we’re working for the Lord, suddenly we want to make a fabulous filling dinner. Jesus, the Savior of the world? At our dinner table? Wowzuh! And of course we want to do a good job with God’s laundry. Let’s clean those shirts and socks until they’re white as snow! And who said anything about too much time in the car? Nah! We would gladly drive Jesus anywhere!

Everything begins to revolve around Him.

For it’s in Him that we live.

It’s in Him that we breathe.

It’s in Him that we have our very being.

He becomes our fuel. Our source of life. Our source of love.

That’s right, mom. We are seriously loved! Even though we may not always feel like it.

And we are not forgotten! He promises that He will “never leave us or forsake us.”

The God who sees every single hair on your head, cares deeply for you.

The next time you’re tempted to complain that you feel like the Invisible Mom, remind yourself of these two little things:

We do it all IN HIM. And FOR HIM. We wipe sticky counters and stinky bottoms out of love. And we LOVE because He first loved us.

So never fear, precious mama. He knows everything you’re doing. You are not invisible to the King of Kings. For He is El Roi – The God Who Sees.


Anne-Renee Gumley

Anne-Renee is a full-time mom who works part-time at her family's party store. She has two children who keep her laughing, a husband who keeps her smiling, and an itch for writing that just won't go away.

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Anne-Renee is a full-time mom who works part-time at her family's party store. She has two children who keep her laughing, a husband who keeps her smiling, and an itch for writing that just won't go away.


  1. Hi Anne-Renee,

    Thank you so much for posting this. I really needed to read this today. I am not a mother, so I probably have no room to talk about feeling invisible. Unfortunately, I have been feeling kind of like I’m invisible, but there again, a single girl has no room to think such things. I have a renewed perspective now after reading your wonderful post. I can put the dishes away, clean the kitchen because after all, Jesus is in the House! I can vacuum all the carpeted areas in our house because there again, Jesus has come to stay. I really don’t care if I get nothing else done when the nephews and niece come over because, there again, Jesus came over to our house. Thank you so much for the reminder that God does see and notice everything. I am going to try not to throw myself a pity party because Jesus always sees us. Thank you for the reminder that to be first in the Kingdom of God, that one must be the last and the servant of all. Unfortunately, I don’t always like that position. I sometimes feel like the little Red Caboose who always comes last, but by being last, God honors that. Plus, look how the end of that little story turns out! The Little Red Caboose saves the day at the end of the book, and then everybody gives the Little Red Caboose the biggest waives of all. I really need to work on all these ugly feelings. Pray for me as God and I get these straitened out.
    In Christ,

    • Bethany,

      Wow! You hit the nail on the head! Thank you for sharing. LOVE the Little Red Caboose analogy! Oh so true. We may feel like the very last one in a long line of cars, but God sees us. And yes, I would be honored to pray for you as you seek Him and sort through these feelings of being invisible. Just know: You are seen.

      Hugs for your day, Anne-Renee 🙂

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