I can be really judgmental about my kids’ behavior.
It’s something I’m trying to be intentional about changing.
They sin differently than me at times. They sin the same as me at times.
But for some reason, I get it in my head that I need to fix them rather than fix me.
We’re moms — so we train, we teach, we love, and we lead, and we should expect obedience from our kids, but sometimes we blur those lines and act as if we’re responsible for their choices and the outcome of our training, teaching, loving, and leading.
That was a mouthful. Basically, we’re responsible for teaching the correct way, they’re responsible for their response.
I spend so much time wishing my kids would change their behavior (because honestly it makes my life a whole lot easier) that I forget I can change my reaction to and thoughts about it instead of fixating on fixing them.
I think we know that all the nagging, pleading, and frustration in the world will not change our kids’ actions.
It comes from a heart that desires change.
Discipline sometimes works, but not always (as I’ve seen firsthand with some of my kids). But it doesn’t mean we give it up. Consistent and loving discipline is the wise and proper course for godly parents. Regardless of the response or results, we must remain consistent and loving extending real-world consequences for misbehavior.
As we move into breezy summer days, may we relax our grip on controlling our kids’ actions, and abide in Christ-like unconditional love and consistency, regardless of the outcome.
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